Spitting into the Wind

Zorba the Greek spoke about spitting into the wind. Have you ever respectfully confronted someone, even asked to be heard by them or requested some assistance and it as if they repackage your words and then throw them back at you in a destructive way? They criticise, blame, insult or in some other personal way attack you. You never anticipate such a response. Almost always the person reaction to you misrepresents and betrays your original intention.  As the recipient of the onslaught, what you are encountering is the impenetrable surface of a closed heart. Closed-heartedness can also manifest in someone just being switched of, deaf, numb and blind to the needs and feeling of others. It manifests in someone who only tunes into their own personal agenda and uses relationships purely to further their own selfish ends.

No-one is born with a closed heart or starts out in life being unyielding. The reality is the exact opposite. Babies are free to give and receive love and open to influence. Closed hearts and unyielding natures are acquired through life experience in one of two ways.  Either the important people in ones early life are closed hearted and unyielding. The child consequently learns to be the same in order protect themselves from being wounded by their caretakers sharp, rough inflexible edges’. Alternatively the child is encouraged by parents to selfishly indulge only their own whims and desires.

Adapting to anyone else’s needs or wishes becomes totally alien to the child. This problem is prevented when a person realises that we exist in the fork between two paradoxical existential positions. The first is that a person is a self-contained universe with unlimited potential and power to influence the world in profound ways.  The second equally true position is that an individual person is as insignificant in the big scheme of the world as a small insect. The key to reconciling this riddle is to have equal understanding of both propositions and to know when to apply each principle according to the dictates of the situation. When it comes to sacrificing for, honouring, respecting and giving to others you need to remember how small you are in the big scheme of the universe. When it comes to planning to reach your potential and to fulfilling your responsibilities’ in the world you have to know that your power is limited only by the limits of your own imagination. Both propositions are taught to children by teaching them to be adaptable and open hearted through the universal values of respect, kindness and honesty. Not only do these values help them to develop open yielding heart. They demonstrate the power to affect the world with that heart.

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